Nurturing the Nafs


اَللّٰهُمَّ اَلْهِمْنِىْ رُشْدِىْ وَاَعِذْنِىْ مِنْ شَرِّ نَفْسِىْ

Oh Allah, inspire me with guidance and protect me from the evil of myself


اللهم ات نفسي تقواها وزكها انت خير من زكاها انت وليها ومولاها

 Allahumma Aati Nafsi Taqwaahaa Wa-Zakkihaa, Anta Khayru Man Zakkaahaa, Anta Waliyyuhaa Wa-Mawlaahaa

O Allah! Give my soul piety and my conscience purity. You are the Master of my soul and the Guardian of my conscience



Key points discussed

• The Nafs: The worst of enemies within ourselves

 • The 3 stages of the Nafs:

1) Ammaarah

2) Lawwaamah

3) Mutma-innah

• Providing the soul with beneficial nourishment – Zikrullaah etc

•  Not enriching it with sins and evil deeds

• Do not become a slave of your Nafs by obeying and fulfilling its every dictate and demand

• A life of filth, vice and evil, is an awful, miserable and wretched life

The couplet of our beloved Sheikh, Aarif Billaah Hazrat Hakeem Akhtar Sb in this regard

 • The need for a Spiritual Mentor

 • The need for training the Nafs

 • Keeping a vigilant eye on the Nafs

 • Three simple examples of nurturing, disciplining and developing the Nafs, until it is under complete control:

 1) The Nafs as a child

 2) The Nafs as a wild horse

 3) The Nafs as an opponent in a boxing ring

• Duas of Rasulullaah Sallallaahu  alaihi Wasallam for protection against the evils of Nafs

Bay’ah of Women

Surah Al-Mumtahinah ~ 60:12 

O Prophet! When believing women come to thee to take the oath of fealty to thee, that they will not associate in worship any other thing whatever with Allah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit adultery (or fornication), that they will not kill their children, that they will not utter slander, intentionally forging falsehood, and that they will not disobey thee in any just matter,- then do thou receive their fealty, and pray to Allah for the forgiveness (of their sins): for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful….

The Qur’an mentions the verses regarding the Baya’h of the believing women and their pledge of allegiance to Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, upon Islam and Imaan … When the Sahabiyat took Bay’ah, they were loyal and sincere …

Download Lecture Here ~ 8 mins

Why do we take Bay’ah today? The intention of Bay’ah is Islaah (self-reformation). The Maqsud (purpose) of pledging allegiance to a Shakyh (spiritual mentor) is to connect ourselves to Allah, to want that transformation in ourselves, to become Allah’s true friend, to bring Ikhlaas (sincerity) into our life and to cleanse and purify our hearts … So often, instead of informing the Shaykh of our weaknesses and rectifying our deficiencies, we surrender to the ongoing battle with nafs and shaytaan, which are detrimental to our Imaan and Deen.

When we have a connection with a Shaykh and make Islaah of our spiritual maladies, then the true purpose and goal of moving towards Allah in this road of Sulook are attained.