Lessons from Hadith Shareef ~ Controlling One’s Anger

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Lessons from Hadith Shareef ~ Controlling One’s Anger

Adapted from a Majlis of Moulana Naeem Motala

28/06/2016 (After Fajr /Ramadan 1437) Musjid e Noor ~ Durban ~ South Africa

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Anger is a deceptive tool of Shaytaan that only leads to more evil and destruction, ultimately resulting in the spoiling of a Believer’s Imaan …

Shaytaan snatches away the intelligence of a person when he does not control his anger. He thus, loses control of his mind, becomes abusive and perpetrates such crimes that he later terribly regrets.

Therefore, Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam has said,

 لَيْسَ الشَّدِيدُ بِالصُّرَعَةِ، إِنَّمَا الشَّدِيدُ الَّذِي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ
“The strong person is not the one who overpowers and brings his opponent to the ground; but the strong one is he who controls himself when he becomes angry.” [Sahih al-Bukhari]

Perhaps in the eyes of society a strong person is the one who is able to wrestle his opponent and pin him to the ground; but according to the Shari’ah, a strong person is that person who is able to control himself at the time of anger. He manages and controls his anger. He does not give vent to his anger by becoming verbally or physically abusive. He supresses and swallows his anger.

Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam has mentioned :

مَا مِنْ جُرْعَةٍ أَعْظَمُ أَجْرًا عِنْدَ اللَّهِ مِنْ جُرْعَةِ غَيْظٍ كَظَمَهَا عَبْدٌ ابْتِغَاءَ وَجْهِ اللَّهِ ‏
“There is no gulp that brings greater reward with Allah than a gulp of anger that a man swallows (suppresses), seeking thereby the Pleasure of Allah” [Sunan Ibn Majah]
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Some Benefits of a Person who Controls and Suppresses his Anger :

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala will fill his heart with peace, tranquility, serenity and Imaan.

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala will remove ‘His’ anger away from this person on the day of Qiyamah.

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala will call him in front of the entire mankind on the day of Qiyamah and give him the choice of ‘Hoorul Een’ that he wishes to have.

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala will hold back His Punishment from him on the day of Qiyamah.

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Anger Management ~ Some Solutions and Remedies

1. Seeking refuge in Allah from the Shaytaan. One should read: A’oozu Billaahi Minashaytaanir Rajeem

Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has said,
إِنِّي لأَعْلَمُ كَلِمَةً لَوْ قَالَهَا لَذَهَبَ غَضَبُهُ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ
Verily, I know a statement, that if he were to say it, his anger would leave: “I seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan, the rejected” [Tirmidhi]


2. Remain Silent

Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has said,
وَإِذَا غَضِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ فَلْيَسْكُتْ‏.‏
“When one of you is angry, he should be silent.” [Al-Adab Al-Mufrad]


3. Make Whudu

Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has said,
إِنَّ الْغَضَبَ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ وَإِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ خُلِقَ مِنَ النَّارِ وَإِنَّمَا تُطْفَأُ النَّارُ بِالْمَاءِ فَإِذَا غَضِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ فَلْيَتَوَضَّأْ ‏‏ ‏
“Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution.” [Sunan Abi Dawood]


4. Sit or Lie Down

Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has said:
إِذَا غَضِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ وَهُوَ قَائِمٌ فَلْيَجْلِسْ فَإِنْ ذَهَبَ عَنْهُ الْغَضَبُ وَإِلاَّ فَلْيَضْطَجِعْ ‏
“When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down”. [Sunan Abi Dawood]